Rejection

From time to time we engage ourselves into some risky businesses, nor risky or not. I mean everything we do or don’t do involves an element of a risk. We tend to forget one thing though, what we venture into might get us hurt or injured both mentally and physically however we walk into it as brave and passionate too. Then when we lose, get injured or be rejected the outcomes usually are the same. We all fear the day it happens yet we all continue venturing into the unknown.

It is true that losing or being rejected by someone makes us feel small, worthless, insecure and unwanted. We feel like the world could just open up so you can hide. We tend to lose our self confidence. We feel like hiding until we feel stronger again…until we feel positive that we can face the world, the people we were rejected in their presence. However, on the flip side, most people like being popular and being loved. It makes us feel good I reckon. Though we sometimes meet vast, different people, some don’t even care what other feel or think about them. Those are the ones who feel down when they get hurt or rejected.

Dealing with rejection is not and will never be easy to anyone. Though how we handle rejection is paramount coz it keeps our self confidence and dignity. Sometimes we make excuses for the person dumping us; we say nasty things about them to make us feel good again…we try to console ourselves. But let me tell you what when you are rejected just move on coz what we encounter in life is an experience (good or bad, it leaves memories and work on them for future references), when you move on you’ll feel stronger than ever, over time. Rejection is good on one instance though, it establishes a sense of learning about our reaction (or emotional intelligence, to be precise).

Our encounters are different in live though, for instance some get rejected from dating, business, or any other spectrum. Let’s take a rejection from dating for example, most people are so not honest and that’s ticks me off. I think transparency is the way to go. A person should just tell when they had enough or if they not getting enough. Let’s learn to call a spade, spade and not a digging tool.

My best advice is that try to track your weaknesses and work on them to keep yourself intact and strong. In that way you will be able to have confidence and then all kinds of rejections will like water over a duck’s back. I’ve been rejected and learnt how to pick myself up from time to time and now I can handle whatever rejection that comes my way.