A sense of Urgency

As we approach the end of the year 2009, most people had year resolutions which some did not accomplish them due to some restrictions or circumstances, and for whatsoever reason it may be. We make year resolutions because we know that we are capable for more than what we possess. We want to bring change to ourselves, our families and to others too. We want to tread into our horizons. As people we fall short, we fall short in life, in reaching our desired goals. We fall short because we sometimes lack the sense of urgency.

We speak of new beginnings, of new things and all things that will bring change in our lives. Change is good. New beginnings are best, too. But if u lack a sense of urgency there is less u can achieve. Think of a person who starts a race without a vision of how he will finish it, with no knowledge of where the finish line is. The beginning without the finish in mind is meaningless. The end is always important for any beginning if u have a sense of urgency in mind.

Though this sense need to be created in your program, and it should not just end there, it needs to be recreated again and again to keep you alert of your ends. If u maintains the sense of urgency in u, u will prosper and u will be compliant. You will be compliant in your dealings. You will do things right from the word go and with the ends in your mind and heart nothing can stand your way. With the sense of urgency you realize that life is too short, therefore it is important to prioritize your goals right at the beginning. This will help you to focus on the important things and eliminate things that aren’t.

So 2010 is full of promises, lets begin this year with the ends in mind, with the sense of urgency and with the vision of what we gonna get out of our actions throughout the year. On flip side of things, you can have the ends in mind but if your means aren’t compliant then you will have a problem. So have this sense in mind and be compliant. Make that list for the year 2010 and work on it right now with end results in mind and heart.

Life is extensible

Life is a journey
That needs to be travelled
I got to give it all, wherever I go
Now I gotta spread my wings and fly
Coz sky is the limit.

As I travel I know I’d fall and cry
Good and bad will happen to me
I will meet people I love
And hate others.
I will make friends, true friends
People who will always be there for me

People I wish to be with together, forever
But that’s not how life works
Life is extensible
So I have to be flexible

In life someone has to leave,
To start new adventures,
Where a new life awaits
Then they will have to say goodbye.

Though it might be sad and difficult
It seems unfair when someone leaves.
I personally hate goodbyes.
But sometimes goodbyes are the only way.
Coz everyone has to expand their horizons
And so I have.

New beginnings are great
I have to leave
I got to start something new
I’m not leaving because of you,
Or anyone
But it’s my destiny
Because life is extensible

I have to go,
I must go for I can no longer stay here,
I must expand my horizons.
It’s hard to say goodbye
Coz I have made friends, true friends
I wouldn’t want to leave
But ya!!! This is it.
Good moments do not seem to last.
I feel the pain inside,
But tomorrow I’ll forget about my grief today.

Devotion

she came to my life unexpectedly,
stood by my side assuredly,
no matter what!!!

she’s been there for me,
she has listened to me,
and comforted me.

she showed me a path to righteousness,
she gave me love and tenderness.

never thought I’d meet someone of her character,
with so much courage,
and passion about life.

she’s been like a mother.
she’s done things not even my girlfriend could have done.
she means a lot to me.

never thought we’d relate,
but now we simulate.

i used to walk past her,
without greeting her.
she would walk arrogantly.
but not, she’s part of my life, eventually.
Who is this woman, though?????

Human nature defaults

Strange enough that we are judged by what we do. What we do projects who we really are, that’s what I have noticed in this planet earth. Though the things we do are sometimes driven by circumstances. Good or bad, we sometimes are left with no option but to just do or accept things as they come due to circumstances.

Where there is some doubt, people will tend to choose negative meanings and draw gloomy conclusions – that seems to be a default of human nature. The amendments we choose to take for the conclusions don’t usually turn out well coz people have different meanings on things.

As human beings we make mistakes, though sometimes the minor mistakes tend to paint your whole being in a way that people will make negative conclusions about who you really are from the mistakes you make. I don’t think that’s how things should be. Who are we to judge? Do we judge others because we get judged too? That’s the human nature default. Anyway, I careless what people think of me.

Rejection

From time to time we engage ourselves into some risky businesses, nor risky or not. I mean everything we do or don’t do involves an element of a risk. We tend to forget one thing though, what we venture into might get us hurt or injured both mentally and physically however we walk into it as brave and passionate too. Then when we lose, get injured or be rejected the outcomes usually are the same. We all fear the day it happens yet we all continue venturing into the unknown.

It is true that losing or being rejected by someone makes us feel small, worthless, insecure and unwanted. We feel like the world could just open up so you can hide. We tend to lose our self confidence. We feel like hiding until we feel stronger again…until we feel positive that we can face the world, the people we were rejected in their presence. However, on the flip side, most people like being popular and being loved. It makes us feel good I reckon. Though we sometimes meet vast, different people, some don’t even care what other feel or think about them. Those are the ones who feel down when they get hurt or rejected.

Dealing with rejection is not and will never be easy to anyone. Though how we handle rejection is paramount coz it keeps our self confidence and dignity. Sometimes we make excuses for the person dumping us; we say nasty things about them to make us feel good again…we try to console ourselves. But let me tell you what when you are rejected just move on coz what we encounter in life is an experience (good or bad, it leaves memories and work on them for future references), when you move on you’ll feel stronger than ever, over time. Rejection is good on one instance though, it establishes a sense of learning about our reaction (or emotional intelligence, to be precise).

Our encounters are different in live though, for instance some get rejected from dating, business, or any other spectrum. Let’s take a rejection from dating for example, most people are so not honest and that’s ticks me off. I think transparency is the way to go. A person should just tell when they had enough or if they not getting enough. Let’s learn to call a spade, spade and not a digging tool.

My best advice is that try to track your weaknesses and work on them to keep yourself intact and strong. In that way you will be able to have confidence and then all kinds of rejections will like water over a duck’s back. I’ve been rejected and learnt how to pick myself up from time to time and now I can handle whatever rejection that comes my way.

Marriage refraining

People’s minds are filed with independence,

everyone wants to be independent,

no one wants to feel attachédto anyone.

They talk of marriage refraining,

gone are the days where marriage

was a blessing from God.

People get married for their own individual

benefit and not of both counterparts.

Gone are the days of serious relationships,

of commitment, and dedication,

of respect to our loved ones.

Now it’s all about giving it a try,

and see if it works,

if it doesn’t you leave.

No hard feelings.

It’s just a game, at the end.

What happened to a sense of glooming your partner?

If there’re mistakes, work on them together,

coz nothing beats unity, and solidarity.

Everyone wants to be on their own,

people don’t want to be owned, at all.

That’s what they feel about marriage.

Gone are the days where partners will be-

faithful,

respectful,

and watchful.

The sense of love is vanquished,

there’s no intimacy, nor fantasy.

Most women mourn the death of “love”…

They don’t wanna be involved any more.

They mourn the death of husbands they’ve

been dreaming for, just to refrain from a marriage

marriage they never tested.

It was all an imagination.

I think we should pray to God,

that the spirit of love comes back

we should reminisce the notion that “two” is good than “one”

and that three is better than two,

for those who still believe in polygamy.

We should pray for every marriage to last, for ever.

We should pray for eternal love and

not for materialistic one.

People should feel the sense of being in love,

to be loved back in return.

To be faithful to one another,

to be watchful of each other,

to be respectful to the other.

In this way, marriage refrainance will be diminished.

We’ll enjoy the benefits and pitfalls that come with it.

Time is money (NOT)

“Time is money” that’s what people often say! That’s not true. In business, YES…time is money. So we proclaim!! But what if there was no money in this world, what would it be? I pondered.

     I recently started tracking my time, the things I do or don’t do with it and reached a conclusion that TIME is the most precious commodity that one possesses. In my case, what I do with my time is more compelling than what I do with money. I mean I survived without cash for a couple of months but have achieved a lot with my time investment. I had time, I spent it, I spent it on things I want, and though I did not have time for the things I needed to do like sleeping (enough), eating (healthy) due to circumstances.

     I think time constitutes space, love, and money. For instance, time is space (when you need your own space), it is love (in relationships) and it is money (in the business world). All these subjects are intertwined with time, though. Especially love, when it comes to relationships, one gift you can give to your loved ones is spending quality time with them. “Time is love” quote makes sense when it comes to relationships. Love takes time to create, just as money does.

     Time is money, not. Hence money can be replaced. But time, can not. In my environment I have lost people I love dearly but manage to recuperate that sentiment, I have lost money but replaced it (sometimes and sometimes have not), but one thing I have struggled to replace my entire life is time. No matter how hard I have tried to stay ahead of it I kept trembling. I always wish time can be rewinded...I wish I could turn back the hands of time....there's a lot I could change in my life, things I have done and regreted for. But what happened, happen, I just have to be strong and keep going. I think scheduling your time wisely might be a solution to keep on track with it. To do the right thing, at the right place at the right time.

     Conversely, you will find people who have money but not time. Some have time but not the money. Some have space but don’t seem to have time on their own because their environments are always beset. Some have love but none of other things, but time to spend with the loved ones.

     One of the things I learnt with time is that it does not change but environments we find ourselves do. Time is never wasted but it is spent (wisely or not) and no one can ever relive it. Money or not, time goes on. This “Time is money” equation need to be revived.