D definition of luv

  Every day of our lives we often here the word love: “I love Apple Mac, I love Porsche Cayenne (oh!! dats my favourate car)” and so many other things that people love. But do we really know what love means? I know each man has his own definition of love. In English language love means ‘a strong positive emotion of regard and affection’. Yet other languages like French love means different things for different purposes and these are ‘amour, aime, amtie’.

  We live in a country where our love has one meaning with everything. Where love is no longer a choice but an obligation, we are living in the world where we should love our families no matter what they do to us. Because they are family you got to love them. Same goes with friends we have to love them no matter what they...provided we really love them and they serve our personal needs. (*sigh*). 

  We live in the times where we love one another on performance factors. In your family for example, if you have done something that please your parents then they will tell ‘I love You son’, you’re such a star. That type of love is performance based and it’s not the love from within. Why should we do something to know our parents loves us? How are suppose to people around us if we do not get love from our families? I think parents are the ones who should nurture us and give us unconditional love so that we can transmit the same love to our brothaz and sistaz around us.

  We live in the land where our love is tailor-made by people around us; we do dramatic things to please people in our surrounding. When you go on a date with someone who love horse-riding for example and you never tried or had any interest in it: but because you wanna be with that person you’ll do anything to make her happy, you will pretend that you also love horse-riding. Why do we have to lie to be with people we love? We lie and do things that people love in a way that we even forget about our inner feelings, interests, and we forget who we truly are because we have been venturing other people’s lives and not ours.

  There is nothing worst then to lie to yourself, to live a fake life, a life that is tailor-made by others and not us. They say people can do anything for love. People can go all out to ensure that their lovers “supposedly lovers” stay with them. Things you would not do in your truly state of mind or self being. Why do we have to be shifted from our own way of living to those of other people? We live on the planet earth where some of us can no longer tell who their real selves are. People have lost self identity; they now have false personal identity. Some people are force to tell their partners they love them even they do not feel like just because it makes the other partner feel happy. I think that should come from within and must not be pulled out of ones’ chest.

  Love as any other things is made of various ingredients and these are: truth, love, trust, care, commitment among others. I start with truth because being honest with one another is the core concept of love. You gotta be honest with yourself before you get involved with anyone else because if you enter in a relationship where you only want to fulfil certain purposes of life you just in a wrong relationship and actually you don’t even know what love means.

  You know that sometimes people that loves you do not always do right things, they can hurt you, they can reject you just because they love you, they can do things that even a stranger is capable of because they love you. These things are possible because love does not occur over night; it takes time to know anyone better. So being hurt in a relationship is just the rhyme of love. 

  Love is another essential ingredient for love. Hmmm!! Let me rephrase that, love is the perfect ingredient of love. You can care, trust, commit yourself with someone or on something you love. However, if the element of love doesn't exist there, then you just don't love him/her or it but you probably adore it. One has to learn to love before they emancipate love to others. Love yourself before you love others. But one can only love someone else when they are being loved by the people around them. Only once they realize that they are being loved then they will love back. If people around you don’t love you, how are you supposed to love them?
  Sometimes I wonder who said love gives your partner an authority of control, I mean most people think if they are in love they should control the other counterpart which I don't think it works for any relationship. As much as you would love to spend quality time with your partner but it does not mean that you have control over his/her time or him as a person. Love means compromising, committing yourself and giving one another space, hence, though you can be together in spirit but you still have separate goals and respecting someone else's time just spice things up a bit.  

  To end off, love is God and God is love. God’s love is unconditional so it is important that we give unconditional love to our brothaz and sistaz.